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Looking at ourselves and the world through the lens of the 21st century.

Wednesday, February 11, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - February 11, 2026

 
 
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11-FEB-2026
S6E6: What Constitutes Cheating?

What constitutes cheating? While an extra-marital affair definitely fits the description, what about a simple dinner with a person of the opposite sex? Can you have friendships outside your marriage? What about flirting? Where do we draw the line between harmless connection and betrayal, and who gets to decide?

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Wednesday, February 4, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - February 4, 2026

 

 
 
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4-FEB-2026
S6E5: National School Counseling Week

In honor of National School Counselors Week, Amber pulls back the curtain on a role that’s often misunderstood and undervalued. What do school counselors really do? How do they support students beyond schedules and transcripts? And why does their work matter more than ever? This episode is a must-listen for parents and students who want to better understand—and better use—the support available in schools.

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Wednesday, January 28, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - January 28, 2026

 

 
 
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28-JAN-2026
S6E4: Handwriting and Note-Taking on Paper

Have you ever wondered why you can remember that tidbit you wrote on a sticky note over a year ago, but you can't remember the specifics of the notes you took on your computer yesterday? In this week's episode, we're exploring why handwritten notes and journaling is better than typing for memory and emotional processing.

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Wednesday, January 21, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - January 21, 2026

 

 
 
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21-JAN-2026
S6E3: Annotating Books

In this episode, we talk about annotating books: what to mark, how to do it, and how annotations can help you read more actively and remember more.

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Wednesday, January 14, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - January 14, 2026

 

 
 
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14-JAN-2026
S6E2: Anatomy of an Epidemic

Investigative journalist and author Robert Whitaker examines the roots of today’s mental health epidemic in his book Anatomy of an Epidemic. In this episode, we review his arguments and question whether the psychiatric drugs we trust to heal us may be contributing to the crisis. Are the treatments meant to make us better actually making us worse—and if so, why?

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Monday, January 12, 2026

Anatomy of an Epidemic


 

In 2022, I read Robert Whitaker’s Anatomy of an Epidemic: Magic Bullets, Psychiatric Drugs, and the Astonishing Rise of Mental Illness in America. To say that I was skeptical would be an understatement. I started this weighty discourse ready to debunk the author’s claims. After all, we’ve had psychiatric medicines for years – surely they are helpful to the millions of Americans, including myself, who take them daily, right? The idea that the medications that are supposed to cure us could be worse than the condition itself is unthinkable. Yet this is the very concept Robert Whitaker is presenting.


It did not take long for my skepticism to evolve into outrage as I read case study after case study in which patients were very obviously misdiagnosed and over-medicated. The book also revealed how these psychotropic drugs were discovered in the first place, and why the concept of a “chemical imbalance” is not only a misnomer, but an out-and-out lie. By the time I got to the end of this book, I was determined to get off my prescribed antidepressants and to convince my family members to do so as well.


This week’s podcast is the beginning of an exploration of this profoundly disturbing book. We started recording and realized, almost two hours into the episode, that we had barely touched on the subject and would need to break it into multiple installments, as we did with the series on Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth in 2022. It’s a lot of information, but I hope you’ll stick with us. I promise it will be worth it in the end. It might just change your life. It has certainly changed mine.


Thursday, January 8, 2026

Beliefs, Ego, and Boundaries


 

This week, our podcast focused on the need for some people to share their personal beliefs whenever the topic of discussion touches on an area where it would fit. These assertions are most often about politics and religion, but can also pertain to other, less contentious topics. While Christen and Amber say they are more likely to “check out” of the conversation, I’ve found I can’t do that, especially when the comments are directed at me. It’s tough because I am often the leader or organizer of the group, so it's in my best interest to help maintain the peace. I also know that I am not the only one facing this behavior. So, what is a girl supposed to do?


While our conversation helped me see other points of view on the matter, it didn’t really help me resolve my problem. Talking about ego (a la Eckhart Tolle) and the various mental health insights provided by Amber helped clarify the why of this behavior, but offered no real clues on how to discourage it without hurting anyone’s feelings. I needed suggestions, so I dared to ask ChatGPT.


Posing the question to AI allowed me to use a few more specifics about the situation that I couldn’t share on the podcast (don’t worry, I didn’t share any names or personal info). We had a nice little “chat” about it, and I feel like I understand the situation even better than I did after we recorded the podcast. And while Christen was at least partially right about ego being involved, AI confirmed that the behavior isn’t so much about social identity (fitting in) or convincing others as it is an affirmation for the individual – basically self-validating their beliefs. It’s basically an emotional survival function. People repeat certain beliefs not to convince others, but because they need to hear it again themselves. Without this reaffirming statement, the individual might begin to doubt their belief and might therefore have to confront particular anger, injustice, or powerlessness that they don’t want to face. No malice involved here…just self-preservation. I get it. I’ve done it myself.


I am reminded of something I read in Brené Brown’s Rising Strong. In it, Brown asks, “Are they doing the best they can?” I often have to ask myself this question when I see people behaving in ways I question or dislike. I have to admit that the answer is usually, “yes.” I find that when I understand why someone behaves in a certain way, it’s much easier to give them the benefit of the doubt – to be more forgiving. When we look at things that way, we are all doing the best we can under the circumstances, right? And I can see that in most cases, this behavior helps the person who’s doing it in some way. More than likely, they assume that since the belief is helpful to them, it would be beneficial to others as well. 


However, understanding why someone does something does not negate the need for specific boundaries. If a behavior is hurtful, whether intentional or not, it must be addressed; otherwise, we risk irreparably damaging the relationship. Often, an individual may not even realize that their statements are dismissive or harmful to others. Boundary blindness is a common issue and refers to difficulty recognizing, respecting, or maintaining personal boundaries – either one’s own, other people’s, or both. Boundaries are one of the most frequently reported problems in relationships. Establishing and maintaining boundaries can be difficult, but it is well worth it for keeping the peace. Here, again, AI had a few suggestions.


The key, according to ChatGPT, is to address the issue without attacking the underlying belief. 


  • Never argue about whether the belief is true. Instead, focus on impact and boundaries. If you argue the validity of the belief or state that you (or others) believe differently, you activate defensiveness in the other person. It will only make them dig in harder as it threatens their psychological safety. Focusing on how you feel, not what they are doing wrong, separates that person’s belief (which is valid for them) from its impact on you (it’s not helpful).  For example, “I know that believing _________ brings you comfort, and I respect that. But when I’m dealing with _________, hearing __________ actually feels painful and invalidating to me.” 

  • Name the repetition Gently. Point out how often the topic comes up by saying something like “I’ve noticed this comes up almost every time we talk about hard things, and I want to be honest that it’s hard for me to hear repeatedly.” This shifts it from being accusatory to being descriptive. 

  • Set a boundary if needed. If the person persists, then it’s okay to get firmer, just don’t be cruel. You could say something like, “I understand this belief is important to you, but I need to ask that you not apply it to my experiences. If it comes up again, I may change the subject or step away.” It’s a boundary, not a punishment.


Having this conversation may not convince the person that their belief is unhelpful in general, but you can make it clear that it is unhelpful to you. If the person is emotionally healthy enough, they will adapt. Otherwise, it might be time to limit how much you share with this person. You may have to adapt yourself to avoid discussions that could lead to undesirable outcomes. Or you could honor your boundary and leave the room.


Wednesday, January 7, 2026

Heard it on the Podcast - January 7, 2026

 

 
 
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7-JAN-2026
S6E1: Why Are We Compelled to Share Our Beliefs?

We all know about the topics one should never discuss in polite company, so why are we compelled to share our beliefs even when we know others may not agree? Is it ego? Do we seek validation? Or are we just stirring the pot?

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Thursday, January 1, 2026

Excuse Me While I Read My Tarot - A Reading for the New Year

 


I can’t believe that 2025 has already come and gone. Now it’s time for me to set my intentions for 2026, work out my goals, let go of things that no longer serve me, and draw my annual New Year’s Tarot reading. Since many of you may be getting set up for the new year with your own goal-setting and tarot spread, I thought I would share my process here.


I found this awesome 12-card spread on the blog of Biddy Tarot, one of my favorite tarot instructors on the internet. Rather than a month-by-month breakdown of my year, this one focuses on key lessons, aspirations, and specific life areas, including relationships and emotions, work and finances, health and well-being, and spirituality and fulfillment. I love this because it aligns with my goal-setting. 


I started with a bit of meditation just to clear my head of any stray worries or obligations. It’s always good to have an open mind and heart. I used the Wild Unknown deck by Kim Krans, given to me by a friend. I love this deck for the striking visuals. It’s not so great if you need clues from the artwork to recall the card meanings, though. I also noted that the Strength card (#8 in the traditional tarot deck) and Justice (#11) had their numbers swapped in this deck. I assumed it was a printing error, and since the cards are Major Arcana, the number doesn’t really matter so much as the subject of the card, so I read them that way.


As I turned each card, I jotted down the keywords and meanings, noting any reversals. Because I am not as familiar with this deck and because I have other decks and descriptions I like a lot, I also referred to those. In all, I read the cards four times, noting the meanings from the Wild Unknown deck, Biddy Tarot’s website, the Light Seer’s deck, and the Original Rider Waite: The Pictorial Key to the Tarot by A. E. Waite. Some of you might be surprised to know that while most of the meanings were the same or similar, there was quite a bit of divergence between them, which is one of the reasons why I like to refer to as many different resources as possible and not just rely on my own memory and/or intuition when reading cards for myself. Sometimes, the meaning just doesn’t fit.


If you’ve been following along on the podcast, you’ll recall that Amber, Christen, and I have been using AI quite a bit lately for various things. I mainly use it to clarify my thoughts and distill them into actionable lists. Since so much information was gathered in this 12-card draw, I decided to share my notes with ChatGPT to see if the results matched my own conclusions. I gave a brief description of myself:


Assume that I am a 61 year old white female, widowed with 3 grown children, a son-in-law, step-granddaughter and several couples who consider me a second mother figure who is a part-time travel agent, podcaster and blogger that loves to craft, what would the following 2026 New Year Tarot reading mean for me? Break it down by each card using the descriptions provided.


I followed this with my complete notes for each card, including all four resources. I was delightfully surprised by the accuracy of the interpretation. ChatGPT even managed to derive several highly relevant points that I completely missed – almost as if I’d had a reading from someone else because it eliminated the natural bias that occurs when reading for yourself or someone you know. 


If you’d like to see my complete notes, I’ve linked them below. You can also view the ChatGPT results. I’m going to keep these two versions together to refer back to throughout the year. I know that Christen has used ChatGPT to help her with her goal-setting for 2026 (hopefully she’ll share that with us!), so I might do the same, adding this tarot read to the prompt for further clarity. 


Let me know what you think! Was ChatGPT spot-on, or way off? Would you use it yourself or would you just go with your own instincts? I’d love to hear about it!


2026 New Year’s Tarot Spread


2026 ChatGPT Interpretation

Wednesday, December 31, 2025

Heard it on the Podcast - December 31, 2025

 

 
 
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31-DEC-2025
S5E53: Recaps: Goals, Our Lives, and More

It's the end of the year and time to reset for 2026. Listen in as we share our progress on our goals and choose a Word of the Year for the next 12 months.

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Our words for 2026 are: Illuminate, Devotion, and Finish. 

To learn how Cindy discovered her word "Finish" for 2026, check out her blog post here: Finding My One Little Word

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