Conversations with the Maiden, Mother, and Crone

Looking at ourselves and the world through the lens of the 21st century.

Wednesday, April 10, 2024

Heard it on the Podcast - April 10, 2024

 

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10-Apr-2024

S4E15: Wedding Planning

Pinterest was a great source of ideas for planning both Christen's and Amber's weddings. Here's some of the boards we used:

Some of Amber's vendors included:

Christen's Venue:  
Cindy's Crafty Neighbor Blog Posts about weddings:

Friday, April 5, 2024

Words Have Power!

 


In our weekly podcast, Amber, Christen, and I talk a lot about manifesting our best lives and that we use scripting or journaling to set our intentions. We also write out affirmations and gratitudes. I, for one, do a lot of writing; I generally have 7-8 journals going at any given time, each with its own specific purpose and style, so I’m always looking for new journals to track my progress, set my intentions, log my tarot layouts, and more.



One of the journals I use is our Modern Musings’ Words Have Power journal. It was designed for scripting and has 86 lined pages, making it perfect for my daily Gratitude and Affirmation practice. 



Hal Elrod’s Miracle Morning S.A.V.E.R.S inspired this practice. Each morning, after my prayers and meditation, I write out three things I am grateful for, three things I would like to accomplish, and one affirmation. It’s a great way to start my day with gratitude and intention.


In another journal, I document my accomplishments at the end of the day. I find that I have some pretty high expectations about how much I should accomplish in one day – it’s never limited to the three things I list in the morning. My to-do lists read more like War and Peace, and I tend to beat myself up over the tasks I don’t complete. But when I think long and hard, I know that I’ve accomplished a lot, often finishing tasks that weren’t even on the list in the first place. So, rather than be angry with myself for not managing to do x, y, and z, I started a practice of cataloging everything I accomplished at the end of the day. Wow, was that an eye-opener! When I end my day by listing everything I did, whether it was on my to-do list or not, I feel much more productive, and I can go to sleep knowing that I've done my best.


Do you script or journal? If not, I highly recommend it! To begin your scripting or journaling practice, try one of our Words Have Power journals, which are now available on Amazon.com:


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    Wednesday, April 3, 2024

    Heard it on the Podcast - April 3, 2024

      

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    3-Apr-2024

    S4E14: What About House Plants?

    Three things we mentioned for feeding/watering your plants:

    • Christen uses Miracle-Gro All Purpose Plant Food; follow package instructions.
    • Cindy has used: ammonia and water at the rate of 1 TBSP of ammonia to 1 gallon of water; water weekly or as needed.
    • Cindy has also used: 1 gallon of water, 1 1/2 TBSP unscented Epsom salt, 1 1/2 tsp baking soda, plus a scant 1/2 tsp of household ammonia; Allow mixture to sit for 30 minutes to allow the Epsom salt to dissolve; feed plants once per month in place of watering.



    Wednesday, March 20, 2024

    Heard it on the Podcast - March 20, 2024

      

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    20-Mar-2024

    S4E12: Greatest Recipe Fails

    Wednesday, March 13, 2024

    Heard it on the Podcast - March 13, 2024

      

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    13-Mar-2024

    S4E11: A Look at Tarot

    Some of the decks we discussed:


    Wednesday, March 6, 2024

    Heard it on the Podcast - March 6, 2024

      

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    6-Mar-2024

    S4E10: Women in Rock

    Add your pick to our poll:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/modernmusingschat

    Wednesday, February 28, 2024

    Heard it on the Podcast - February 28, 2024

     

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    28-Feb-2024

    S4E9: I Heart Huckabees

    • I Heart Huckabees:  On IMDB (with links to stream)



      Friday, February 23, 2024

      Heard it on the Podcast - February 14, 2024

       

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      14-Feb-2024

      S4E7: What Are You Most Afraid to Do?



















        Wednesday, February 21, 2024

        Heard it on the Podcast - February 21, 2024

              

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        21-Feb-2024

        S4E8: Read Across America

        Thursday, February 15, 2024

        What Am I Afraid Of?


        This week, Christen brought up the topic, “What Are You Most Afraid to Do?”. If you listened to the podcast, you know that she was hoping we could unpack some of those fears to get down to the root cause and maybe (hopefully) work through those fears. It made me think of this line from Frank Herbert’s “Dune” about fear.

        “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” 1

        The line is a mantra of sorts, recited by the characters when they face extreme tests of their courage, and it rings quite true. Oftentimes, we are afraid of what we can’t see or what we can’t know, and those fears cause instinctual responses like “fight,” “flight,” or “freeze.” Have you ever heard the term “a deer in the headlights?” Have you seen an animal freeze as you approach or run away at the sight of headlights from your car? Humans, tend to react the same way unless we allow our higher brains to take control and reason through the situation. Our ability to reason is one of our greatest gifts and also one that we tend to neglect.


        In the podcast, we discuss the idea that fear, especially fear of failure, is one of the main reasons most people don’t reach their goals. Whether it is fear of failure, ridicule, pain or bodily injury, or change, our fears keep us rooted in a fight-flight-freeze mentality that prevents us from moving forward and achieving our highest goals. 


        Fear is the mind-killer. When fear takes control, you become unable to act or think. Everything you see, fee, and do is tainted by your fear. You become extra cautious. You question yourself and your judgment. You might even stop doing some of the things you normally would do. Fear becomes a little death as it destroys your self-confidence, happiness, and maybe even your independence.


        In confronting your fears head-on, you can put the worst behind you. I remember an episode of This is Us where two of the main characters had a “What’s the Worst Thing That Could Happen” game they played to help sluff off their fears. They took turns telling possible endings to the situation that got progressively worse until they landed on what both agreed was the worst-case scenario. By imagining all the things that could go wrong, they realized that most of those scenarios were never going to happen and that what likely would happen was something far less drastic.


        As a new widow, I’ve been playing that game with myself lately – more than I’d like. I have deep-rooted fear about my ability to take care of myself and move on with my life now that Mark is gone. How can I increase my income to compensate for his loss? How can I conserve the money I do have so that I don’t wind up homeless and penniless like my mother did? How do I manage the upkeep of the house and all the chores that Mark took care of in addition to all the things already on my plate? What does my life look like going forward? All these thoughts put me in that same fight-flight-freeze pattern, dulling my senses and exhausting what little strength I have left to face each day. 


        On the podcast, I talked about how most things that frighten me now are not the same things that frightened me when I was younger. I’m no longer afraid of speaking my mind (most of the time) or speaking in public. As we mature, we seem to shift our fear from being an outcast to fear of physical pain and discomfort. We lose our indestructible mentality and become more comfortable being ourselves.


        I’ve found that some fears are the same, just in a different wrapper. At 21, I became a single mom with a part-time job, a car that often didn’t run, and an apartment I couldn’t afford. That was terrifying, but I made it through that. Looking back at that time, I can safely say that I am far better off than I was back then, even if I still have only a part-time job, a mortgage, and two cars that sometimes don’t run. I faced those fears back then, and now I can turn my inner eye to the path that those fears took, seeing clearly that none of the things I feared back then ever came to pass. My child did not starve, we weren’t evicted from our home, and she wasn’t taken away from me. My life went on – I went on, and the life I built with Christen (and eventually, Mark) belonged to me, not to fear. 


        Now, as I contemplate moving forward in a life without Mark, I realize that I must once again face that fear. I cannot let it control me; I will never move forward if I do. I have to let my fear pass over me and through me so I can look back again and say, “I did that. I survived. The fear is gone, and only I remain.”


        1 Frank Herbert, Dune



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